What is Shame?
A structure / stronghold in your mind holding your potential captive. The structure is multiple false beliefs, glued with thinking patterns and fuelled by emotions that are activated on a daily basis. This structure destroys, destructs and kills us slowly because it is in rebellion against our Father God.
Have you ever felt frustrated, hopeless, worthless, disappointment, rejected, sad, fear, angry and powerless all at the same time?
A dark-lost destructive feeling that makes you want to run away, hide your face, give-up or lock yourself in a room…
That is shame… If you experience this once in a bloom moon or often the intensity of shame is just different but still operating.
Why is it that we do not have a proper emotional definition of shame? It has been covered up and in hiding for such a long time. That is, in fact, what shame does best: HIDE. Most of us face shame daily without realising what it is.
Here is an acronym to describe shame more accurately:
S = Self Hatred
H = Humiliated by who you are (Humiliation)
A = Abandoned due to disrupted core
M = Measured and found faulty
E = Enslaved
Shame is a dark place with its intensity determined by the state of mind you find yourself in. You can be just sad or suicidal with shame being the ROOT operative. It is a severe principle that governs a variety of toxic emotions like;
Fear of Abandonment
Fear of Rejection
Fear of loss
Fear / anxiety
Fear of Judgement
Fear of disappointment
Shame makes its victims believe that they are unworthy, useless and that their core is bad / faulty.
How do you know shame’s got a hold on you?
If you can identify with 3 or more of these, shame is definitely something you need to look at, resolve and heal.
• Needing to disappear
• Failure to do anything = paralyzed
• Ears ringing – cannot hear or remember anything
• Any form of addiction
• Self-loathing / punishment / hatred / condemnation
• Take everything personal – highly sensitive
• Black or white thinking
• Take offence on behalf of others
• Needing to be the hero – rescue others
• Needing to be perfect
• Need rescuing – need someone to just save you
• Calculating reactions, emotions, behaviour,
• People pleaser or making decisions to please others
• Fear of rejection
• Belittling yourself or others
• Emotionally spinning out of control
• Emotional exploding
• Feeling abused
What can you do about shame?
It is super important to identify every single thought pattern, belief and emotion connected to shame and destroy it while bringing your mind, body and spirit in line with the Holy Spirit.