#2 — Stop Judging
“Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven; give, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.” He also told them a parable: “Can a blind man lead a blind man? Will they not both fall into a pit? A disciple is not above his teacher, but everyone when he is fully trained will be like his teacher. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Brother, let me take out the speck that is in your eye,’ when you yourself do not see the log that is in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take out the speck that is in your brother’s eye. (Luke 6:37-42)
In 2019, Abba Father really brought judgment to my attention … He made it clear to me what He sees as judgment and how it contaminated my life. I missed many of these things because judgment was part of my lifestyle and thought processing at the time.
I want to share the revelations with you …
WHY DO WE JUDGE?
• The measurement we use to evaluate is challenged
• The person’s action triggers something in ourselves that we are in denial of or do not want to solve
• We believe we have a position that qualifies us for knowing and deciding what is right and what is wrong
• We feel entitled to stand on what we believe because we neglected our point of views earlier in life
• We see judgment as a way to prove that we are not compromising
HOW CAN WE STOP JUDGING?
1. Delete measurements and definitions
When we measure, we immediately create grounds for judgment. Measurements cannot exist without definitions. We only judge when our definition of something is violated. We will not have definitions if we do not desire or fear something. For example; if I fear rejection, then I will create definitions and rules I should comply with in order to save me from rejection.
Measurement is created out of definitions and followed by judgment when they are violated. For example; if someone made a decision that does not align with our belief-system, we then judge them because our mind considers their choice as wrong. Who are we to decide this? When we measure others, we give other people the right to judge and measure us.
Definitions are created out of fear.
Why? The mind sees fear as a base for protection.
How? When something traumatic happens, our minds call fear to make sure we never experience that thing again. Fear, because it’s fearful, then calls control to help. Control then creates definitions and rules to help fear to protect you.
Thus, when you do not have definitions, you do not have the base for measurement or judgement. When you process emotions, events and trauma, fear cannot create definitions to help you to measure and judge. You will, therefore, be FREE when you allow yourself to be the version that He created you to be.
2. Solve reflections
We have been taught that other people are the cause of our emotions, behaviour, beliefs, reactions, opinions, perceptions, etc. In actual truth, they are only triggers for what is already inside of us. No one can MAKE you feel anything. You will only feel the emotion or believe something if it ALREADY exists in your mind.
We see in others the things that we actually need to solve in ourselves. Just like the scripture states in the beginning of the article. If something happens that we experience to be negative, we need to solve it within ourselves and stop blaming others. When we stop to blame others, they will stop to blame us.
How? PROCESS EMOTIONS!
I have a 21-Day Process Emotions WhatsApp course for R500 – do this if you need to learn how to process emotions.
3. Admit, accept and acknowledge that ONLY Abba Father knows
We need Him to teach and guide us moment by moment. It is so easy to move into a position of pride by thinking we know something. We actually know just a fraction of what our Father knows. When we allow HIM to be the one to decide things, we can move through life more easily.
We judge others based on what we have been taught, but that is not necessarily truth for that person. They are on their own unique journey with Abba Father, allow them to be on their journey. When you manage to allow them to be on their journey, your mind will allow you to be on your own journey without judgment.
4. Sow good seeds
We are constantly sowing seeds; with our thoughts, mouths, actions and emotions. We will ALWAYS reap what we sow. When we judge others, we sow judgment. Something we do not understand about judgment is that it will DESTROY anything that comes from the Father.
Why? Because the one that judges, is IMMEDIATELY removed from grace. And, as you know, we are nothing without grace. To judge means to consciously CHOOSE to disregard grace. What will you reap in your life without grace? Think about that …
Sowing good seeds also requires to never ever hold a grudge, because if you do, that will be what you sow. Sowing grudges will block off any blessing purposed your way. If your perception is contradictory to the blessing or the promise of your Father, you will simply MISS that blessing or promise. Your perception, or what you believe, need to be in line with the promise or blessing.
5. Stop wanting to prove
We think that we ought to make sure people have the correct version of Abba Father or prove that we belong to Him to make sure others have the correct opinion about Abba Father. This is not our job — that is the Holy Spirit’s job. When we LIVE and have our being in HIM, we are the light to the world. Our life will become a testimony to others when we ALLOW Jesus to live through us wholeheartedly.
How do we do this? By renewing our minds, taking our thoughts captive and processing emotions. We are in charge of our minds and He made it possible for us to discipline our minds in becoming like Jesus.
We do not want to compromise so we fear compromise, we fear to make mistakes because we see mistakes as failure. The root of all of this is fear of judgment. You know what fear does, it creates definition and rules using control. Fearing judgment results in judging ourselves, then judging others igniting the vicious circle of judgment: FEAR > DEFINITION > MEASUREMENT > JUDGMENT.