Stop Assuming

Stop Assuming

4 Things to eliminate from your

life to ensure a victorious 2020

#1 — Stop Assuming

According to the New English Usage Dictionary, “assume” means:
• To take
• To seize
• To pretend to have
• To take for granted

What does this actually tell us?
• Stop taking things for granted
• Only seize what Abba Father says to seize
• Stop thinking we have a clue

Assumptions always lead to conflict, hurt, anger or disaster. It destroys relationships.

4 Things to eliminate from your life to ensure a victorious 2020:

#1 — Stop Assuming

According to the New English Usage Dictionary, “assume” means:
• To take
• To seize
• To pretend to have
• To take for granted
What does this actually tell us?
• Stop taking things for granted
• Only seize what Abba Father says to seize
• Stop thinking we have a clue
Assumptions always lead to conflict, hurt, anger or disaster. It destroys relationships.

When do we assume?

We assume if people behave in certain ways, they are disrespectful, evil or reject us. We also assume that things will happen based on our past experiences.

My definition of assuming is the following: using your own discretion instead of using the Holy Spirit’s guidance.

What is the deeper reason behind assuming?

• We unconsciously believe all people are the same and they cannot change which entitles us to assume how certain things are intended.
• We believe our definition of money, a good person, success, love, friendship, marriage is correct which leads us to assume that others ought to comply with our definitions.
• Past experiences proved us right, so we assume what the future will be like.
• It is easier to blame others than take responsibility for our own lives, so we assume people are out to get us or we assume we cannot trust others.
• We assume because it aligns with our prideful mindsets and beliefs.

So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed. (John 8:36)

How do assumptions steal our freedom?

Let’s look at the above points and talk about each of them:

1. We assume because we unconsciously believe all people are the same and they cannot change. This is a super strong self-fulfilling prophecy because it allows you to only meet people that will treat you the same as others that hurt you in the past. If we generalize, we also force ourselves to fit in and conform to this world and its customs.

Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect. (Romans 12:2)

If we believe people cannot change, your mind will not allow you to change, meaning you cannot be a new creation. Do you understand the severity of this? Your unconscious mind cannot determine the difference between you and someone else and will turn everything you believe of other people into self-fulfilling prophecies for you.

And the second is this: ‘You must love your neighbour in the same way you love yourself.’ You will never find a greater commandment than these. (Mark 12:31)

How can you love your neighbour if you do not love yourself? How can you love yourself without loving your neighbour? IT IS NOT POSSIBLE for the mind to really love your neighbour without loving yourself first. Neither is it possible for the mind to love yourself and then not love your neighbour. The exception to the rule comes in when the mind is controlled by something else other than Abba Father.
Your mind will, therefore, never allow you to believe that people are unique or special, and then at the same time allow you to believe that they have to behave, think, feel, and react the way YOU believe to be correct. Read this sentence over and over again until it rings through your heart.

We are all different, each one unique in our processing, our journey with Abba Father and we have different roles to fulfil on this planet. How can we be the Body of Christ if everyone has the same function?

When we assume how people will react, we will never give them a neutral space to be the way the Holy Spirit inspires them to or the way they were created to. We will limit them and keep them from growing. We are meant to build each other up and we can only do this when we allow others to be themselves.

2. We assume because we believe our definitions are correct and should be applied to EVERYONE. We automatically make ourselves God. How? Assuming that your definition of anything is the only correct one, puts you on a pedestal that unconsciously sends the message to your mind that YOU are on top; you are God and signs a contract with pride. If you believe your definition of love, for example, is the only correct one, your unconscious mind will make your definition a LAW. Living with laws hanging over your head only brings death. It will also block out everything that is not considered to be love according to your definition. I have found my own definitions blocking out my Father, countless times.

Only Abba Father has the power to determine what is love, what is right or wrong for each individual in each given time.

Look at it this way:

He is the only One that knows you COMPLETELY … He should, therefore, be the only One you listen to, submit to and obey.

We tend to assume our definitions of things are correct which leads us like sheep to be slaughtered. When it comes to definitions, we can only speak for ourselves and focus on our own journey and relationship with Abba Father. ONLY HE KNOWS what is best for us. Being open to the Holy Spirit’s guidance and Yeshua’s council will help us to refine our definitions every moment in every day, to help us remove the bondage that our definitions create.

Your definition of love, marriage, money, success, Abba Father, a good person, etc directly influences your life.

3. We assume based on past experiences. The past experiences then form self-fulfilling prophecies. If we assume based on past experiences, we are unconsciously saying that all things do not work out for our good because we fear that the past will repeat itself. If we assume based on past experiences, we are also unconsciously saying that Abba Father does not have plans to prosper us because why did He allow the things that happened in the past. All of this causes us to then choose consciously to not take our thoughts captive, to be anxious and to allow our hearts to be troubled.

Can you see this vicious cycle?

If we process past experiences and hold on to His promises, we will never be disappointed.

Don’t be pulled in different directions or worried about a thing. Be saturated in prayer throughout each day, offering your faith-filled requests before God with overflowing gratitude. Tell him every detail of your life, then God’s wonderful peace that transcends human understanding, will make the answers known to you through Jesus Christ. So keep your thoughts continually fixed on all that is authentic and real, honourable and admirable, beautiful and respectful, pure and holy, merciful and kind. And fasten your thoughts on every glorious work of God, praising him always. Follow the example of all that we have imparted to you and the God of peace will be with you in all things. (Philippians 4:6-9)

Past experiences tend to determine our definitions, turning them into self-fulfilling prophecies when, in fact, only ABBA FATHER’s Word should determine our definitions and turn THAT into fulfilling prophecies.

I know and understand how difficult it is to process and heal from the past. It is not easy and sometimes not a journey to take on alone. Pray and ask whether you need to get help, I am always willing, if it is His will.

4. We assume because it is easier to blame others than take responsibility for our own lives. This person did this and that person did that, sound familiar? We assume people mean things they say or do in certain ways. We can then blame them for how we are feeling because of what they said. We reject the responsibility to process emotions and solve our issues by blaming others for it. We refuse to accept that through Jesus our Saviour we are more than conquerors. We unconsciously give others the ability to determine our value, our future and our happiness.

How can you BE FREE if others have this power over you?

No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord. (Romans 8:37-39)

Only Abba Father has the power to determine your value and He did that LONG, LONG ago. Every time someone else has the power to make you feel unworthy, you disregard what Yahweh decided about you years ago.

I struggled with unworthiness for a very long time and understand how it forms and hi-jacks your mind. Again, if unworthiness is something you struggle with, pray about it and ask how to go about overcoming it. I am always here and willing to help if He wills it.

5. We assume because it aligns with our prideful mindsets and beliefs. What is a prideful mindset to me? Thinking I am closer to Abba Father than others, believing I know what is right and wrong and then expect people to behave according to it. If we think we know each other, we will unconsciously have a preconceived idea of people’s behaviour which influences the relationship. This, again, limits them to be who they were created to be in our lives and destroys who we were created to be in their lives.

Every single person in your life is a gift just like you are a gift to them. It is your part to see them as a gift and it is their part to see you as a gift. If someone does not see you as a gift, it is not your problem. Abba Father uses all circumstances as opportunities to bring you closer to Him, as you desire it to be.

When you see your life through this perspective, you then welcome tribulations and trials.

So, in short, how can you stop assuming in order to have a FREE 2020?

1. People are all unique and different, allow yourself to be you and you will automatically allow them to be themselves.
2. Remove definitions and allow the Holy Spirit to breathe new reason and perspective into your life every single moment of every day.
3. Let go of the pain of the past and heal – get help if you need to.
4. Give back the power to determine your value to Abba Father. NOTHING else should be able to decide whether you are valuable or not.
5. See each person in your life as a gift, enjoy and value them for the period they are granted to you.
6. Be brave and have the courage to ask questions, share your feelings and communicate to avoid destroying relationships.